Join Chris Stedman on the digital road

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October 19 / 7 PM CST

“Pub Day Eve” Instagram Live with comedian Beth Stelling

Tune in at @chrisdstedman or @bethstelling

October 20 / 7 PM CST

Virtual Launch with author John Paul Brammer

Hosted by Magers & Quinn

October 21 / 4:30 PM CST

Instagram Live with author Valarie Kaur

Tune in at @chrisdstedman or @valariekaur

October 22 / 5:30 PM CST

Instagram Live with author Archie Bongiovanni

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October 23 / 3 PM CST

Instagram Live with HPST hosts Vanessa Zoltan and Casper ter Kuile
 

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October 26 / 7 PM CST

Virtual Conversation with author Kristen Arnett

Hosted by Pilsen Community Books

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October 27 / 12 PM CST

“Hour With An Author” Webinar

Hosted by Convergence on Campus

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November 10 / 4 PM CST

Lecture at Augsburg University

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November 12 / 7 PM CST

Virtual Conversation with author Hanif Abdurraqib

Hosted by Subtext Books

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December 10 / Time TBA

Virtual Conversation with writer Safy-Hallan Farah

Hosted by Moon Palace Books

Chris’s second book, IRL: Finding Realness, Meaning, and Belonging in Our Digital Lives, is out now. Order Today!

Praise for IRL

Hanif Abdurraqib “I am thankful for IRL, which fits into a line of texts asking important questions of the human need to be seen, to be connected, and to perform for a public. Chris Stedman is equal parts caring and indicting, and I hope this is a book that remains at the forefront of the discussion about our lives—digital and otherwise—for years to come.” Hanif Abdurraqib Author of They Can’t Kill Us Until They Kill Us and Go Ahead in the Rain Alexander Chee “Chris Stedman’s newest book is a strangely prescient and timely guide to being more real digitally as we enter an era where we will need to be. His idea of digital life as drag has entirely reoriented my sense of self-presentation there, even as this brilliant book does more than that. By turns playful and wise, he makes us legible to ourselves and each other in new ways.” Alexander Chee Author of How to Write an Autobiographical Novel and The Queen of the Night Augusten Burroughs “At first, the premise of this book—Finding Realness, Meaning, and Belonging in Our Digital Lives—was of exactly zero interest to me because I’m too shallow and morally bankrupt to read any book with belonging and meaning in the title. However, I was unexpectedly riveted by Chris Stedman’s fascinating and surprising insights into authenticity both online and off, and I was especially moved by his vulnerability. I think so many people are going to relate to this work of memoir and cultural commentary, especially dismissive and judgmental people like me.” Augusten Burroughs Author of Running with Scissors and Dry Meghan O’Gieblyn IRL is a brilliant and captivating meditation on the complexities of identity in the digital age. Given the many polarized and one-dimensional debates about the merits of social media, Chris Stedman offers a refreshingly nuanced account of how digital spaces both satisfy and complicate the innate human need for community and recognition—particularly for a generation that can no longer find such fulfillment in religion or other traditional spaces. Written with earnestness and wisdom, IRL interrogates conventional binaries—the real versus the fake, the fleeting versus the lasting—and asks us to imagine our online lives as a frontier rich with possibility.” Meghan O’Gieblyn Author of Interior States Garrard Conley “Chris Stedman’s IRL is full of insight and honesty, but its greatest achievement lies in furthering our vocabulary of what it means to be real. Taking its cue from queer performativity, this book is a much-needed addition to the conversation, providing the side of the story many think pieces ignore: that for many of us, our digital lives were where we first learned to live most fully.” Garrard Conley author of Boy Erased Sam Lansky “Chris Stedman’s IRL is a deft interrogation of how our increasingly digital lives have reshaped our sense of what’s real, within ourselves and around us. Drawing from equally deep wells of research and reflection, Stedman probes and provokes our expectations of our changing world, and how we fit in it. But as he mines his own experiences for insights and wisdom, Stedman also emerges as a winning storyteller, with a deeply felt and authentic story all his own.” Sam Lansky Author of The Gilded Razor and Broken People Briallen Hopper “In this urgently needed book, Chris Stedman redefines realness, showing how vulnerability, intimacy, self-discovery, and deep connection can flourish in both our online and offline lives. IRL takes the shame out of our dependence on the internet, and helps us imagine new kinds of consolation and community for a fragmented and sometimes lonely world.” Briallen Hopper Author of Hard to Love Thomas Page McBee IRL is a personal, and often-poignant, investigation into what it means to be real in a digital age. In his writing and exploration, Chris Stedman embraces (rather than resists) the unity of opposite impulses that define our social lives online: critical engagement alongside mob mentality, surprising intimacies and algorithmic bubbles, selfies as vanity projects and selfies as spiritual opportunities. Reading this book made me think more deeply and ethically about the life I lead online and—relatedly, I now see—what it is to be human.” Thomas Page McBee Author of Amateur Nick White “With IRL, Chris Stedman shares the vulnerable, and often harrowing, account of his search for how to be real in a messy, messy world. By reckoning with his own complicated relationship to social media, he ponders notions of community, friendship, heartache, and, above all, how to live a meaningful life. Filled with humane candor and clear-eyed prose, these pages show a brilliant mind at work on some of the thorniest issues today.” Nick White Author of How to Survive a Summer and Sweet and Low Ana Marie Cox “Chris Stedman brings a compelling combination of intimacy, vulnerability, irony, and brutal honesty to his search for what it means to be ‘real’ both in and out of virtual spaces. We’ve become more dependent than ever on the relationships we form online—and so we’re under more pressure than ever to integrate our identity in something consistent, forever ‘on-brand.’ His testimony opens a space for all of us to stop fetishizing discipline and false coherence and instead dig deeper into uncertainty and connection.” Ana Marie Cox Culture critic and host of With Friends Like These Nick White “With IRL, Chris Stedman shares the vulnerable, and often harrowing, account of his search for how to be real in a messy, messy world. By reckoning with his own complicated relationship to social media, he ponders notions of community, friendship, heartache, and, above all, how to live a meaningful life. Filled with humane candor and clear-eyed prose, these pages show a brilliant mind at work on some of the thorniest issues today.” Nick White Author of How to Survive a Summer and Sweet and Low Valarie Kaur “How can we harness the internet in ways that give life, community, and meaning? Chris Stedman draws on his work as a fierce activist and trailblazing thinker to illuminate a path forward for us all. Weaving together powerful personal reflections and insightful research and reporting, Chris shows how the internet offers us an opportunity to approach the most central questions of life in new ways. This book is essential reading for understanding what it means to be human in our digital world.” Valarie Kaur Author of See No Stranger Dave Holmes “It’s easy to dismiss social media as one hundred percent bad and destructive (as many of us do when we performatively quit it once a week) or to passively let it run our lives (as many of us do when we start our day by scrolling through it). It takes a wise person to find the good and edifying within it, to identify a constructive way to use and to think about it, to see it for what it is. Chris Stedman is that person, and we’re lucky to have his rational voice in these rancorous times.” Dave Holmes Author of Party of One Dylan Marron “In IRL, Chris Stedman is getting after the real questions—and best of all, he’s not answering them for us, but encouraging us to ask them too. He’s a mapmaker charting intangible paths between the digital and physical realms, inviting us along to test out the pathways.” Dylan Marron Host of Conversations with People Who Hate Me and creator of Every Single Word John Paul Brammer “I, like many of my millennial compatriots, spend a good chunk of my life online. What I’ve found is that the internet has its own language and foments unique relationships, which can be difficult to navigate and understand. Few are able to write as lucidly on that subject as Chris Stedman, whose prose and insights bring clarity to the muddled, often chaotic lifestyle of we, the ‘terminally online.’ With this book, Stedman writes eloquently on his own experiences to illuminate the core truths of the online dynamics we interact with every day while at the same time asking key questions: What is ‘authenticity?’ What is ‘real?’ I highly recommend it, and I think it will play an important part in shaping how we discuss online interactions moving forward.” John Paul Brammer Columnist and author of ¡Hola Papi! R. Eric Thomas “I didn’t realize how much I needed this book! Chris Stedman’s perspective on humanness is so wise, vulnerable, and insightful. While the internet can bring us together and make us feel like we know strangers, true intimacy is a rare and magical thing. This surprising book possesses that magic and generously offers it to the reader.” R. Eric Thomas Author of Here For It Nora McInerny “We contain multitudes. Seeing all of those multitudes spun together with a combination of personal memoir and academic interest kept me turning page after page…on my e-reader. Ultimately, Chris Stedman does for our digital worlds what he does for atheism—asks us to expand our thinking beyond just one thing or the other, good or bad, and see that we’re all of us…just real.” Nora McInerny Author of It’s Okay to Laugh and host of Terrible, Thanks for Asking Eboo Patel “Chris Stedman has done it again. This is a book of warmth and wisdom, a book about what it means to be human. It will expand your mind and comfort your spirit. I loved it.” Eboo Patel Author of Acts of Faith Cole Escola “This is not some tired, shallow think piece about ‘How we’re on our phones too much.’ Chris Stedman writes from a very personal, empathetic place of genuine curiosity which inspired me to reflect on my own life online in ways I hadn’t thought about before.” Cole Escola Actor and comedian Reza Aslan “What does it mean to be real? This is the question that launches author and activist Chris Stedman on a personal and philosophical journey through the ways one which social media has changed our very sense of self. For the many out there who are perfectly comfortable with their curated identities online, but who have no idea who they are offline, this is the book for you.” Reza Aslan Author of Zealot and God: A Human History Kirkus Reviews “Can online platforms help us find true connection? Stedman is a natural guide to the complex world of digital tools that can help us map out our lives and teach us how to be human. . . A relevant investigation into what it means to be ‘real’ in virtual space [and] a handy user’s manual for leading an online life full of meaning and connection.” Kirkus Reviews The Society Pages “In IRL, Chris [Stedman] tackles big questions about what it means to be authentic in a world where so much of our social interaction is now taking place online. The book goes to deep places, but it doesn’t burden the reader with an overly-serious tone. Instead, [Stedman] brings a lightness by blending memoir, interviews, and social science, all arranged in vignettes so that reading feels like scrolling through a carefully curated Instagram feed. . . A glowing example of what it means to think relationally about our own lives and the lives of others.” The Society Pages Library Journal “Stedman remains accessible as he places himself into this technological yet jargon-free narrative; anyone looking to learn more about digital culture and its impact on society will be interested in and able to follow the concepts the author puts forth.” Library Journal The Loft
“In Stedman’s new book, IRL, he cements his position as a powerful cultural critic and gifted author.”
The Loft
Life After God
“Much of the time, [Stedman] says, we don’t think of our time on the internet as real, and therefore we don’t approach it with the same critical analysis that we might a different kind of engagement. How much thought do you put into an activity that you don’t think is real? [Stedman] argues that while our lives online are different, [the internet] is no less real. As such he invites us to think deeply and critically about how we engage with the internet, how it is shaping us, and what it’s telling us about what is real and what is important.”
Life After God
<em>Rewire</em>

“[IRL] is erudite yet highly readable, a deeply confessional memoir that mixes philosophy with pop culture and media studies.”

Rewire
<em>Input Mag</em>
“A book that will change the online (and offline) you.”
Input Mag
<em>BuzzFeed Books</em>
“A must-read for anyone who’s condemned the internet for creating huge social disconnect, and everyone whose lived experiences prove otherwise. Stedman explores the many ways people form meaningful relationships and reveal their authentic selves through social media and forums—often with more success and freedom than in their ‘real’ lives. Which brings me to an especially salient point—that this distinction between our digital and physical lives is an antiquated one, and both are equally real.”
BuzzFeed Books
Sarah Jones

IRL is a beautiful, honest book, a true balm for my Twitter-addled brain.”

Sarah Jones Writer and culture critic
<em>Largehearted Boy</em> IRL is a profound and necessary exploration of our identities online and how we interact with each other.” Largehearted Boy